Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Few more thoughts - Friendship

In my life I came across several kinds of people whom I call as friends. Certainly few of them are girls as well. Before writing further, I want to tell that what friendship meant for me.

“I think Once in a while you meet someone, and soon you both discover the two of you are truly something special to each other. You share your thoughts and feelings so relaxed, so openly and right away you know your friendships truly meant to be.”

May be friendship can’t be explained in few words or it doesn’t need explanation, but still not every person in your contact become your friend.

When I have made friendship with girls I wonder I ever thought of our society. Yes, it might be the case of male female relationship has no respect n some sort of same crap. I never bother of such unethical thinking of our ethical society. For me friendship means friendship. It must be same for everyone. The only relationship exist which does not consider any boundaries.

Despite friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art (a painting of Mona Lisa or Michelangelo’s work doesn’t have a single penny ka meaning to anybody. Still these are the costliest monuments in the world) ... It has no survival value (if it is not there at all it wont affect any body); rather is one of those things that give value to survival (it is just precious).

Friendships begin because, even without words, we understand how we felt.

Just stop for a moment and think:

Can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy together those moments of life that are utterly simple? They are the moments people look back on at the end of life and number as their most sacred experiences. Simple and pure.

Once I said this to one of my female friend:

"I can drops mine plans when you're in trouble, shares joy in your accomplishments, feels sad when you're in pain. I always encourage your dreams and offer advice--but when you don't follow it, me will still respect and love you. That’s it. It’s me. I will always be like this. Sometimes I wonder how our relationship flourished. We had no expectations, demands or any other things like this from each other. Or this was the reason behind? Yeap ! Might Be! "

The friendship between a man and a woman which does not lead to marriage or desire for marriage may be a life long experience of the greatest value to themselves and to all their circle of acquaintance and of activity; but for this type of friendship both a rare man and a rare woman are needed. Perhaps it should be added that either the man or the woman thus deeply bound in lifelong friendship who seeks marriage must find a still rarer man or woman to wed, to make such a three cornered companionship a permanent success.

The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.

When you honestly ask yourself which person in your lives means the most you, you will often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with you in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with you in an hour of grief and sadness, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with me the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.Yes , but with this I dont mean to say that friends are extremely important, but for me they are part of my life but not can't be mistaken as my life. It may be the much hypes word , hence most of the time I tend not to define anyone as my friend. Friends are special, they will be with you throughout life.

Thursday, June 22, 2006

First Day

Today is my first day to write in any blog. Nothing special, as software engineer I usually come across different kinds of blogs everyday. But today I observed something unusual. Something that had just happened and inspire me to start writing blog.
When I joined my 1st company (actually still working with the same), we guys always finds nice chicks around us. Few of us came across one girl, who was looking wise kind of OK. The things goes on, few of us got the chance to be work with her. But what the luck, everybody rejected her on the ground that she has no brain. Beautiful but dumb. :( .
Days went on; meantime I even forgot her name. But then one day (today) I came across her blog. Voyla ! The same girl. But she wrote magnificently. She was kewl , really ! :) ...
This is it, we always tends to take First impression as the last one. It is okay in interviews or some places like that. But it doesn’t hold well in real life. Life is like this only.
People say I am not expressive. Yes, I never expressed myself. May be it is true. I always keep smiling. But it was not true always. Obviously I am not perfect; I do have 13 grey hairs :).
I feel that we need to understand /gain from small things. Today unknowingly I have understood something, that you need to give chances to others. And then other will follow.
Understanding is must , must for any relationship.